Why we fight

I've often come upon a dilemma with my friends when they are trying a new "lifestyle" (though I hate that word). Diet, relationship, etc. The dilemma is this: they are better off if I give them support in a certain way. I am unaware of what this way is. I can guess, but I'm too often wrong.

I wish for my friends to give me some guidance. Or maybe to acknowledge my dilemma. In any case, there is a good thing I can do and a bad thing I can do. I want to do the good thing, but the friend always screams out about how they are uncertain and they are thinking they are doing a bad thing. I hear, "Please, please, PLEASE confirm my doubts!"

How can i not acquiesce? Hrmph. Just tell me to do the hard thing. My ethics won't agree with your self-discipline.