What is the matter.

In all of the self reflection I've done, I've never been able to figure this out:

"Probably most people enter relationships because they want sex, security, love, avoid loneliness or boredom etc. And I’m not saying that I don’t want those things, but it’s not my primary focus. What I want is being able to relate to another person - getting to know them, negotiating terms, building the relationship, co-creating a relationship with someone who is interested in doing that with me."
-snowqueen


It's more complicated than this, but I think that it really gets to my problem. What I seek is not the same as what my peers are seeking. I need to better figure out how to articulate what I'm looking for.